Finding our Bridge

This past Sunday, hubs and I celebrated our 12th anniversary.  We had one of the most relaxing, nicest anniversaries I can remember.  Maybe it was because we were out of town.  Maybe it's because we celebrated friends getting married the day before.  Or maybe it was just because we found our bridge again.

Inn at Corolla Light

The past couple of months have not been the easiest for us.  Hubs' classes this semester are killing him, which is therefore killing me and it's not doing much for the "us" either.  We went from a season of never fighting to having arguments like we were just dating again.  We went from being "here" (as in "we're here" - mentally) to you're here, I'm there and I don't know where that bridge is that goes between us. Someone throw me a line.  Please.

These last few months, things have been hard and stressful for us and I finally had to recognize that we are in a different season now.  And that is ok.  The reason it is ok is because I am hopeful.  I know that this too shall pass.  I know that the end result will be worth this brief time of struggle.  We have a plan.  No one said that plan was going to be easy.  Most things that are worth it aren't.  I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. So many things are temporary and we just have to stay hopeful and positive in the waiting.  Which ain't easy, believe me, I know.  And this weekend, as we walked down a pier together in the morning and stared at a lighthouse, I knew, as I had all along, that everything will be ok.  We found our bridge again.

The thing is, it can happen to anyone.  You know how people say marriage is work?  I think that's the work part.  Keeping it up.  It's not that loving someone is hard.  The work is not getting caught up in routines and life and neglecting that other person.  It's making sure you take that time to nurture the relationship.  That's not easy because we are all so busy.  I made it a point this year to schedule a date night for every month on my calendar in January, when I got my calendar.  I just picked the last Sat of every month.  It might not sound romantic to schedule dates, but it's the only way I can make them happen.  And it worked.

People often tell us that they envy our relationship.  This always makes me smile.  Not because that statement makes me feel good, but because I know the truth behind our relationship.  Hubs and I are very close but we have gone through a lot.  And I am okay with that.  I wonder if people would be envious if they knew all the tough times that we went through?  Maybe not.  But no one said that marriage was going to be easy.  Most things that are worth it aren't.

Take time for each other on a regular!
K