What I Really Wanted to Say on Father's Day

Father's.  Sometimes I think they are a lucky bunch.  My husband can't remember who my children's teachers are.  He doesn't remember who likes Doritos and who likes Lays.  He never fills out permission slips.  He doesn't take them to lessons.  Sometimes I get so frustrated.  It's just not fair. Why do I have to remember all this stuff?  Help me out here, dude.

We are all gifted for different things (whether we are the same sex or not).  And life gets a whole lot easier if you learn and accept that.  While you can learn to do certain things, you may never a knack for it. So don't be envious of someone who has different talents than you, just admire them.  (Maybe if you are really nice to them, they'll even give you some tips!)  Embrace what your gifts are and don't expect others to have the same ones that you do.

My husband is never going to remember who wants Doritos and who wants Lays. But what he does give my girls is so much more important than the correct bag of potato chips.  They know they are loved.  They know if there is an issue and he needs to intervene, he will fight for them for as long as it takes.  More importantly than just feeling loved, they know they are valuable, intelligent and precious, not only to us, but to the world.  Anyone that doesn't think they are doesn't deserve to be their friend or good forbid, their boyfriend (they will probably stop liking their father around that time - you know, when they are 50!).

I love how much he talks to my girls.  About history, about current events, about life.  They know he can help them solve their problems, if that's what they want.  They know they can just vent to him too and he will understand.  He values what they have to say.  They know what it means to be a family. That sometimes you don't know what someone wants exactly, but you will do the best you can and listen and love them. They know what it is to work hard, to provide for your family, and to make sure you take time to have fun too.

 
So what I really wanted to say to him on Father's Day was, I love you for the gifts that you have.  I love you for the wonderful job you are doing raising two girls in a world that has gone crazy.  And I love you for making the whole thing so darn fun.  And for goodness sake, don't give the Teenie the Doritos.

Thanks to all the Dads out there who are giving it their all!

~K